十年一覺情愛夢

十年一覺情愛夢
文章日期：2007年6月19日
【明報專訊】
十年前，以為一段關係之間會有一個等號，一個讓雙方付出與獲得都公平的等號；十年後，從校園走到社會，愛侶們教曉我，愛情不是方程式，一句「愛你／不愛你」，沒有邏輯，最好，也別問原因。
十年前，以為手牽手後，就是戀愛的開始；十年後體會，真正的戀愛，其實在熱戀後才起步。
十年前，愛情是撒野，是被遷就，是要求承諾，是我對你錯；十年後，愛情是溝通，是包容，是沒有承諾的承諾，是不分誰對誰錯的交易。
十年前，以為人生最能掌控，最不費氣力的，應該是愛情；十年後發覺，學業事業家庭朋友，都不及談情學問多。
十年前，以為零距離會讓二人愛得更深；十年後終於明白，留點空間才能留住愛。
十年前，愛是佔有，是嫉妒，是猜疑，是管束，是讓自己快樂；十年後，愛是放手，是體諒，是信賴，是放任，是讓對方快樂。
十年前，我只看到對方的弱點；十年後，發現自己的缺點比誰都多。
十年前，以為戀愛到結婚是一條寬闊的單程路，沿途應該景致如畫；十年後回望，原來從戀愛到婚姻都是沒有路牌的分岔口，倒頭車沿路不絕，看不到終點，很煞風景。
十年前，我看不起白流蘇；十年後，我懂得欣賞白流蘇。
十年前，戀愛總是附帶責任；十年後，有責任的，就不是戀愛。
十年前，我把戀人當成晚餐的主菜，不可或缺；十年後，我希望戀愛像飯後甜點，錦上添花。
[周瑮]

李察 問到底: 為何老子喜歡暗中行事？

李察 問到底: 為何老子喜歡暗中行事？

喜歡暗中行事，是中式思維最惡劣的負面特徵。
而這種行為的遠古來源，出自老子。經歷二千年的明
暗陶薰，已經成為中國人負面人格的一部份。

孫子的謀略，也講究兵不厭詐，虛則實之，實則
虛之的原理。到有一天，中國人能夠分清楚，老子和
孫子的絕對不同，中國文化才算得上是真正進步。

因為，老子分析宇宙萬物，只找到一條片面的原
則。他以為對立就是一切。而且，為了造成對立的轉
化(用一句不好的話就是搞臭對方)，他就要採取暗中
行事的原則。知其雄，守其雌。欲抑先揚。要毀滅一
個人，先捧他上天。這一類方法，都是暗中做的。所
以，老子說：「國之利器，不可以示人。」因為，他
無法從全面觀察萬物。他只有一方面。如果這一方面
讓人看到了，他的工作就無法進行。

對立轉化使宇宙萬物的原理都簡化了。所以，老
子認為毋須求知，只要暗中行事，萬物都能控制。

李察 問到底: 為何愛迪生不肯承認失敗？

李察 問到底: 為何愛迪生不肯承認失敗？

*周一人物*
愛迪生是非常努力工作的人。他常說，天才是百
分之九十的勤奮加上百份之十的創意。而且，他喜歡
日本人新渡戶稻造的著作《武士道》。大約他對於武
士道的嚴格律己、不知轉向的精神有共鳴。新渡戶稻
造前往美國時，受到愛迪生的熱情招待。

奇異電力公司(G.E.,General Electric)的名字，
本來是Edison General Electric . 但前面的Edison
一字，卻被刪除。因為愛迪生發明的直流電，在與西
屋公司競爭時遭到慘敗，最後除名。

為甚麼愛迪生明明看到交流電的好處，卻不肯承
認？自然科學數據明確，但為甚麼他仍然拒絕承認事
實？身為大科學家，竟然妄顧事實？

因為，他已經坐上了一張舒適與死亡的椅子。這
是一張絕不應該坐上去的電椅。而他居然欣然坐好
了。故事請參考網上書：《莊子原著與莊子原理》第
二部第七章：「我」。

Another Angel

God, thank you today as you let me to join a group of high school students and BBQ with them.

At night, another angel calls from far away... she reminds me again... God is there for us who believe in HIM.

God, thank you.

Ups and Downs

Today, I am having a day of ups and downs.

Wonderful start as we connect many people to camp on Canada Day.

But as I am driving down to Toronto, my mood and emotion is just like my driving direction: down south.

Dinner time, a much emotional picture.

Sigh... but... God is really there...

As I get home, I got a message from my friend when she "saw" my frustration online.

"I know it is hard to fully commit in christ work.. and I'm proud of you!
God will appreciate that too!"

God, thank you for sending such an angel besides me and reminding me that you are there for me...!!! THANK YOU...!!!

Blank

I want to write something tonight, but... my brain is blank. I don't know what I am thinking, I don't know what I want.

It seems to me that some people out there think that I am thinking too much. Am I? I don't know. I really don't.

God, guide my thoughts, please.

The Longest Date...? The Longest Date...!

The longest date?! 其實好羨慕佢,起碼有個好結果... 我? 唉...真係 the longest date...!

是愛...還是恨???

唉...究竟是愛...還是恨??? 不過,我想,愛總是比恨好啩... 耶穌講既??? 嘻嘻嘻...

愛你變成恨你 - 吳雨霏
曲:劉祖德
詞:林夕





不 你太好 想 你更糟 我仍未接受到
被 被你突然就算宣佈 分手更好
當你待我好 該難忘程度
心頭如像被插刀 好到太慨沒有好報
似是個圈套 令捱難度更加高

不能懷念愛惜 不如懷恨更激
恨人亦要花氣力 例如恨你 為人自私也任性
我憎你不停來為我添加大量情敵
將鹹甜回憶 記恨你才能令愛著你也沒價值
直到令我的強烈愛意平息

想你太傷 不會設想 再懷念變孽障
就絕到亂誣衊你醜樣 毀懷形象
因你受了傷 憎你會有獎
想到缺點便拍掌不要讓我面對真相
掛念似騷癢 恨才能令我輕傷

不能懷念愛惜 不如懷恨更激
恨人亦要花氣力 例如恨你 為人自私也任性
我憎你不停來為我添加大量情敵
將鹹甜回憶 記恨你才能令愛著你也沒價值
直到令我的強烈愛意平息

我愛你麼? 我怕你麼
厭惡你方能夠不難過
憎你那過錯 憎你放棄我
再愛你嫌命長麼

不能懷念愛惜 不如懷恨更激
恨人亦要花氣力
恨完就怕 如情隨宣洩絕跡
不停來為我添加大量情敵 憎 完全被迫
記恨你才能令愛著你也沒價值
直到令我的強烈愛意平息

"Heart... miles and miles of heart."

Today, when I chat with some friends, remind me of this film: "The Replacements".

From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia, The Replacements is a 2000 comedy film directed by Howard Deutch. It stars Keanu Reeves, Gene Hackman, Brooke Langton and Orlando Jones, and very loosely based on the 1987 NFL players' strike.

The film opens with a professional football game being played in Washington, D.C. During the final minutes of the game, commentators John Madden and Pat Summerall (playing themselves) discuss the fact that at midnight, all of the players in the League will go on strike since contract negotiations with the owners have failed, perilously close to the end of the regular playing season. Due to League regulations, the strike cannot extend into the post-season. The Sentinels are poised to continue into the post-season play-offs if they win three of the last four regular season games. Edward O'Neil, owner of the Washington Sentinels, contacts former head coach Jimmy McGinty, recruiting him to put together a team of replacement players during the strike. McGinty agrees on two conditions: that he have no interference in his coaching from O'Neil and that his choices for the replacements are unquestioned. While other teams recruit semi-pro or former pro players, McGinty assembles an eclectic group of players that confuse the other coaching staff.

The team cheerleaders also join the strike, leaving Annabelle Farrell, the head cheerleader, to find a new cheering squad during the remaining four games. The first group of prospective cheerleaders are so untalented that Annabelle eagerly accepts Dawn and Heather, the only two so far to have dance experience or acceptable looks. When they inform her that they dance at a strip club, Annabelle hesitates, then agrees to recruit them. She invites them to send their stripper friends to tryout as well. The resulting cheerleading squad, composed of strippers, is uproarious, and their extremely sexual antics prove most helpful to the replacement Sentinels during the San Diego game.

At first, the team suffers from communication problems and disagreements. They lose their first game. But McGinty's unique coaching style and an ensuing barfight with the striking Sentinels team helps the replacements cut through their mistrust and lack of cohesion. Even after winning the San Diego and Phoenix games, the replacement quarterback, Shane Falco, is still choking when the game is on the line. When Eddie Martel, the Sentinels' contracted quarterback, crosses the picket line, O'Neil breaks his promise of non-interference and manipulates McGinty into allowing Martel to play in Falco's place. O'Neil doesn't believe that Falco has the ability to lead the team to victory against the reconstituted Dallas team, whose team is once again composed of regularly contracted world champion players who have all crossed the picket line in order to ensure a play-off bid. Martel's prima donna behavior causes serious problems on the field during the Washington-Dallas game. When McGinty is questioned at half-time by a reporter about what the team would need to win, he replies: "Heart... miles and miles of heart." In addition to quoting "Heart" from Damn Yankees (which also takes place in Washington, D.C.), this is a veiled message to Falco, who is watching from home after being inexplicably cut from the team despite being the backup quarterback. McGinty had told Falco when he was informed about the switch to Martel that Falco had something Martel didn't have: heart. Falco makes it to the game before halftime ends, Martel is thrown out, and Falco leads the replacement team to victory. Though they are precluded from playing in the playoff spot they earned for the Sentinels, the replacement players are able to return to their lives with their heads held higher, knowing that they finally won their moment of glory.

There is a romantic subplot involving Shane Falco and Annabelle Farrell, the head cheerleader. Players and cheerleaders are not allowed to fraternize in professional football, but the temporary status of Shane's position on the team makes the point rather moot *As John Madden puts it, "Yeah, but what are they gonna do, fire him?"). Shane and Annabelle become friendly, then fall for one another. Shane has a date with Annabelle following the Phoenix game, but stands her up after being cut from the team in favor of Martel. When he returns to the team during the Dallas game, he apologizes to Annabelle and they rekindle their relationship at the end of the movie.

Heading to Panama...

Its confirmed. The ticket is there. July 19 - Aug 12, 25 days.

Mission: To help a local Panama church (Iglesia Evangelica China) set up a fellowship for university students.

Focus:
(1) Sharing of Christian life experience among Christian university students
(2) Helping brothers and sisters to understand the function of committee and also the role of fellowship in church
(3) Participating in their weekly fellowship and assist in program planning
(4) Provide leadership and skill-set training
(5) To experience community life with a group of students in cross-cultural setting
(6) Other missional work such as visitations and Bible studies

自卑...

吳浩康的新歌"自卑"... 都幾襯我...
唔知有幾多人同我一樣，對呢首歌有共鳴呢???

作曲：吳浩康
講理想　講半天　又憑甚麼
講遠景　講到底　讓人幸福
這期望　我不配去擔當
若面上偶然有些沮喪　不必打探我
曾為誰孤單一個坐天光
人前人後　或者都不起眼
難怪每個夜晚　回家孤單進餐
明明沒氣力發光　世界何來耀眼
我構造太簡單　流淚嫌未夠悽慘

＊（無謂）談自己　只有自卑　屬於我
　做不起討好角色　期望誰發現愛惜我
　其實憑甚麼　資格無多　相信戀愛　不信可以被愛
　心痛甚麼　習慣了孤單去過＊
不必高手教我

講細心　講信心　又憑甚麼　講到尾
講多一百句　但是誰人　陪我在每夜說天氣
或者　悲哀到用笑聲遮掩我未夠好　不爭氣
註定沒緣份成大器　我就每日去飾演　單身好戲

Repeat＊

沒甚麼獎勵我
無謂談自己　只有自卑　屬於我
做不起討好角色　期望誰發現愛惜　六十歲也只得我
自己　得到甚麼　相信戀愛　不信可以被愛
差了甚麼　習慣了孤單去過　不必伸手救我